The Forgotten Couple

Couples Connect

This couple are not in crisis, they are ok.  They get on with each other and perhaps do nice holidays together. They are doing ok.  Nothing that will bring them to couples therapy because they are not fighting with each other, they mostly get on. They have their work and maybe their finances sorted. Their children are ok too or have left the family nest. They still have their health and are active. Not enough to bring them or even to think of wanting the need for couple’s therapy. They are ok. Are they ecstatic about their relationship? Or are they static in the growth of their relationship?   So, while they might not be on the brink of their relationship, they may desire more out of their relationship but do not how. 

There are things that couples do that help bring closeness and connection. Like massages, going out for dinner, watching sunsets, cooking or travelling the world together the list is endless.  However, we are in era unlike our parents and grandparents before us.  We are in the era of the modern relationship where couples desire more with their relationship than just sticking it out together. 

Let’s face it we can tend to be creatures of complacency “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Defined as: Leave something alone; avoid attempting to correct, fix, or improve what is already sufficient (often with an implication that the attempted improvement is risky and might backfire). Some couples get to a stage in their relationship when there hasn’t been any growth in the relationship, and they sense a shift. Or one person in the relationship notices and the other doesn’t. The relationship can then go from ok, to static to stale

The stale can be because there has not been enough food or nurturing given to the relationship. A secure healthy relationship needs to feel connected physically, emotionally, intellectually and intimately.

There are many couples that have stuck it out long term in the past. Were they happy and satisfied with their relationship. Maybe yes, maybe no. I personally know a few that didn’t have a close relationship together even though they stayed together. Certainly, the relationship can have its challenges particularly when women go through perimenopause and menopause. Today, this topic is more openly talked about, and more information and options are available for women to help navigate this stage in life. But this is only one aspect that couples go through as they age together.

How is the love and connection kept alive? How do couples re-invigorate desire for each other? In a secure healthy relationship safety is an essential ingredient. In theory we hope, that when couples have a secure functioning relationship that they can also have deep meaningful enriching conversations with each other. Couples today often grapple with the challenge of building relationships that they didn’t witness in their childhood homes. Without these models to emulate, it can be difficult to navigate the path to a healthy partnership.

Imagine a setting where couples who are faring well but desire more could thrive. Picture organized evenings dedicated to couples engaging in and mastering enriching dialogues. Envision couples, already content, participating in activities and learning about relationships together to foster even stronger bonds.

Each week builds upon the previous one with activities and learning, allowing couples to deepen their understanding of each other and their relationship over three weeks. For those desiring to add extra zest to their partnership, a fourth week is available.

Couples Connect is designed for couples who are doing well but seek to enrich their relationship and avoid stagnancy. It is a weekly 2-hour workshop spanning three weeks, led by a seasoned couples therapist with experience since 2014. Participating couples will gain valuable skills and insights into relationships, along with engaging in thought-provoking activities with their partner.